The Absent Father
In 1978 Ronald Conway published his expose of Australian life, The Land of the Long Weekend. Conway asserts that Australia is one of the most female-dominated societies in the world, […]
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In 1978 Ronald Conway published his expose of Australian life, The Land of the Long Weekend. Conway asserts that Australia is one of the most female-dominated societies in the world, […]
In 1978 Ronald Conway published his expose of Australian life, The Land of the Long Weekend. Conway asserts that Australia is one of the most female-dominated societies in the world, and ruled by what he calls the ‘Magna Marta syndrome’. According to this syndrome, the husband roams on the family rim, something like his wife’s eldest son.
Many criticised Conway for this harsh judgment. However, the absence of a father figure in the home has been highlighted by recent studies of indigenous culture in Australia. On a visit to the UK a few years back I heard a BBC interview with a conservative sociologist who said he believed that we would witness the disintegration of family life in the UK in our lifetime. Apparently, the average 16 year old no long lives with both birth parents. Usually the adolescent is being raised by a mother alone, or birth mother and step father.
As we emerge from the annual celebration of Fathers’ Day, it is a good time to ask about the health and integrity of the father’s place in the family. Fathers have not vanished off the earth, so where are they?
Here is some anecdotal evidence: some will tell you that fathers have moved on to ‘greener pastures’: some found the unrelenting pressure to perform too demanding; some will admit they have made profound mistakes; some will admit they have never grown up and feel like emotionally insecure adolescents in an adult body; Many will blame outside factors such as the cut throat pressure of the business world or vigorous feminism or Government policy in some States which seems deliberately determined to usurp the role of parents in a child’s life.
Whatever the reason, what can be done for the sake of all concerned? Here are three suggestions:
In 1976 we went to our first parish, Wee Waa, then the cotton centre of Australia. Most people in the town had moved there from all over the world, particularly the USA. This meant that wide family structures of grandparents, uncles, aunties, cousins was rare. So the church made up for it. Christmas Day was celebrated together. Family nights took place regularly in the church hall. Spiritual grandparents were readily adopted.
Today the church must be in the vanguard of the promotion of healthy family life in the face of the vacuous destructive forces of secularisation. Is your church family friendly?